This Manual is both a guide to treatment and a workbook for persons who suffer from posttraumatic stress disorder. During treatment, it is a workbook in which individuals can record their own experience of their disorder, together with the additional advice for their particular case given by their clinician. After treatment has concluded, this Manual will serve as a self-help resource enabling those who have recovered, but who encounter further stressors or difficulties, to read the appropriate section and, by putting the content into action, stay well.
Experience of a traumatic event can shatter a person’s life, leaving him or her feeling vulnerable and frightened. It is very important to remember that recovery is possible and that you can lead a normal, happy life again. This does not mean that you will forget what happened to you or that you will never again be distressed by memories and reminders of the event. A certain amount of distress when you think about what happened is part of being a normal, caring human being and we certainly do not want you to have no feelings. However, the distress will become less frequent and more manageable – it will no longer control your life as it may do now. Recovery also does not mean that you will be exactly the same person that you were before the trauma. Such powerful experiences may change people in many ways, not all of them negative. As people recover from trauma, they may find themselves stronger than before, perhaps more caring and with a more balanced and sensible view about what is important in their lives.
By seeking some help, you have taken the first steps to recovery. The purpose of this Manual is to help you through the treatment process in a step-by-step fashion. There is a great deal of information here – take it slowly and read each section as often as necessary until you understand it before moving on. You will be asked to write things down from time to time, so we suggest that you find an exercise book to use for those tasks that you will keep adding to throughout your recovery. Try not to worry if it all seems too difficult at the moment – recovery from trauma is often a long process and you need to take things one day at a time, recognizing small improvements as they occur. It can be a long journey, but it will be worth it.
The nature of traumatic stress and posttraumatic stress disorder
At some point in our lives, nearly all of us will experience a very frightening or distressing event that will challenge our view of the world or ourselves. Virtually everyone develops some kind of psychological reaction following such experiences – this is part of a normal human response to extreme stress. Most people will recover over the weeks and months following the incident, with the help of caring family members and friends. For some, however, recovery does not come so easily and more serious problems develop. In those cases, professional help is often required.
Some individuals who experience a traumatic event will go on to develop a chronic condition known as posttraumatic stress disorder. The exact numbers are difficult to specify, but anywhere between 5% and 40% of trauma survivors may develop Posttraumatic stress disorder. The question of why some people are affected more than others has no simple answer – many factors are involved. It seems to be a complex mix of what the person was like before the trauma, his or her experience of other frightening events in the past, the severity of the current trauma, and what else is happening as he or she tries to recover. Regardless of the causes, effective treatment does a great deal to improve the chances of recovery.
What is a traumatic event?
Trauma is a very personal thing. What traumatizes one person can be of less significance to others. This variation in people’s reactions occurs because of their individual personality, beliefs, personal values, and previous experiences (especially of other traumatic events in their life). It occurs also because each person’s experience of the incident is unique. However, in all cases the individual has experienced a threatening event that has caused them to respond with intense fear, helplessness, or horror. The threat or injury may be to themselves or to others close to them. Typical traumatic events may be of human origin (such as war experiences, physical assault, sexual assault, accidents, and witnessing the death or injury of others) or of natural origin (such as bushfires, earthquakes, floods, and hurricanes). Overall, there are no hard and fast rules to define trauma.
What is posttraumatic stress disorder?
Posttraumatic stress disorder is a psychological response to the experience of intense traumatic events, particularly those that threaten life. It can affect people of any age, culture or gender. Although we have started to hear much more about it in recent years, the condition has been known to exist at least since the times of ancient Greece (more than 2000 years ago) and has been called by many different names. In the American Civil War it was referred to as “soldier’s heart”, in the First World War it was called “shell shock”, while by the Second World War it was known as “war neurosis”. In civilian life, terms such as “shock neurosis”, “railway spine”, and “rape trauma syndrome” were used in the past.
Traumatic stress can be seen as part of a normal human response to intense experiences. While most people recover over the first few months, for many the symptoms do not seem to resolve quickly and, in some cases, may continue to cause problems for the rest of the person’s life. It is also common for symptoms to vary in intensity over time. Some people go for long periods without any significant problems, only to relapse when they have to deal with other major life stress. In rare cases, the symptoms may not appear for months, or even years, after the trauma.
Common symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder
Posttraumatic stress disorder is characterized by three main groups of problems. They can be classified under the headings intrusive, avoidant and arousal symptoms.
Intrusive symptoms
Memories, images, smells, sounds, and feelings of the traumatic event can “intrude” into the lives of individuals with Posttraumatic stress disorder. Sufferers may remain so captured by the memory of past horror that they have difficulty paying attention to the present. People with Posttraumatic stress disorder report frequent, distressing memories of the event that they wish they did not have. They may have nightmares of the event or other frightening themes. Movement, excessive sweating, and sometimes even acting out the dream while still asleep may accompany these nightmares. They sometimes feel as though the events were happening again; this is referred to as “flashbacks”, or “reliving” the event. They may become distressed, or experience physical signs such as sweating, heart racing, and muscle tension, when things happen which remind them of the incident. Overall, these “intrusive” symptoms cause intense distress and can result in other emotions such as grief, guilt, fear, or anger.
Intrusive symptoms of Posttraumatic stress disorder
• Distressing memories or images of the incident
• Nightmares of the event or other frightening themes
• Flashbacks (reliving the event)
• Becoming upset when reminded of the incident
• Physical symptoms, such as sweating, heart racing, or muscle tension when reminded of the event
Avoidance symptoms
Memories and reminders of traumatic events are very unpleasant, causing considerable distress. Therefore, people with Posttraumatic stress disorder often avoid situations, people, or events that may remind them of the trauma. They try not to think about, or talk about, what happened, and attempt to cut themselves off from the painful feelings associated with the memories. In their attempts to do this, they often withdraw from family, friends, and society in general. They begin to do less and less, no longer taking part in activities they used to enjoy. This may help them to shut out the painful memories, but it can also lead to feelings of isolation and of not belonging to the rest of society. In this way the person can become “numb” to their surroundings and not experience normal everyday emotions such as love and joy, even towards those close to them. Such reactions can lead to depression and problems within the family. They can also lead to severe problems with motivation – people with Posttraumatic stress disorder often find it hard to make decisions and to “get themselves going”. They may have difficulty making the effort to help themselves or even to do things that they would previously have found enjoyable or easy. This can be very hard for family and friends, who often think that the sufferer is just being lazy or difficult.
Avoidance and numbing symptoms of Posttraumatic stress disorder
• Trying to avoid any reminders of the trauma, such as thoughts, feelings, conversations, activities, places and people
• Gaps in memory – forgetting parts of the experience
• Losing interest in normal activities
• Feeling cut off or detached from loved ones
• Feeling flat or numb
• Difficulty imagining a future
Arousal symptoms
People who have experienced a trauma have been confronted with their own mortality. Their assumptions and beliefs that the world is safe and fair, that other people are basically good, and that “it won’t happen to me”, have been shattered by the experience. After the event, they see danger everywhere and become “tuned in” to threat. As a consequence, they may become jumpy, on edge, and feel constantly on guard. This can lead to being overly alert or watchful and to having problems concentrating (e.g., not able to read a book for long, getting only a small amount of work completed in a few hours, easily distracted). It is common for sleep to be very disturbed – difficulty getting off, restlessness through the night, or waking early. Sometimes people find that they are frightened to go to sleep because of the nightmares or because they feel unsafe.
Anger is often a central feature in Posttraumatic stress disorder, with sufferers feeling irritable and prone to angry outbursts with themselves, others around them, and the world in general. In part, the anger is one way of expressing the feelings of being tense and on edge that are associated with Posttraumatic stress disorder – for some people it is easier to acknowledge anger than fear. In addition, however, this anger results from the feelings of injustice caused by the trauma – a reaction to the gross unfairness of it all. Anger and irritability frequently cause major problems at work, as well as with family and friends.
Arousal symptoms of Posttraumatic stress disorder
• Sleep disturbance
• Anger and irritability
• Concentration problems
• Constantly on the look out for signs of danger
• Jumpy, easily startled
Associated problems
Posttraumatic stress disorder is not the only psychological response to trauma. People may develop a range of other problems that can affect their quality of life, their ability to relate to other people, and their capacity for work. These problems may occur on their own, or as part of the Posttraumatic stress disorder. Many of these problems are thought to be the result of people trying to control either themselves and their symptoms (such as alcohol and drug abuse) or their environment (such as avoidance behavior and angry outbursts). Also, many of the signs are directly related to stress (such as skin complaints and general aches and pains). Overall, the most commonly associated problems in Posttraumatic stress disorder are those relating to anxiety, depression, and alcohol or drug use – we will discuss each of these briefly. They can be very disabling to the sufferer, and may affect family members and work colleagues. Many of the following problems develop over time as the person struggles to cope with the Posttraumatic stress disorder. If you are in the early stages following a trauma, some of the following may not apply to you.
Anxiety
Anxiety is a state of apprehension and worry that something unpleasant is about to happen. It is often accompanied by a range of physical symptoms (such as sweating, racing heart, and breathing difficulties) that are, in themselves, very frightening. Sometimes people experiencing these symptoms believe that they are going to die from a heart attack or go crazy. Anxiety can be specific to certain situations (such as social events, crowded places, or public transport), or it can be a general state of worry about many things in our lives. If you are having significant problems in these areas, be sure to tell your therapist. Treatment can be very effective.
Depression
Depression is a general state of low mood and a loss of interest or pleasure in activities that were once enjoyed. Life becomes flat and gray, and nothing seems fun, exciting, or enjoyable anymore. These depressed states can be very intense, leading to a total withdrawal from others and a state of numbness, or they can be lower in intensity – just feeling “down in the dumps”. They may last for as little as a few hours or as long as months or even years. In more severe cases, the person may believe that life is no longer worth living. Many people who suffer from Posttraumatic stress disorder over a long period develop significant problems with depression. Again, it is important to tell your therapist if these problems apply to you. It can be treated effectively with psychological treatments and/or prescription drugs.
Guilt
People with Posttraumatic stress disorder often report strong feelings of guilt, shame, and remorse. This may be about the fact that they survived while others did not; it may be about what they had to do to survive; it may be related to how they have coped or acted since the trauma. Guilt is often the most difficult thing to talk about, especially if you feel that you did something wrong or acted in a bad way. However, it is very important that you work on those feelings as part of your Posttraumatic stress disorder treatment, so be sure to tell your therapist about those feelings.
Alcohol and drugs
In an attempt to cope with the unpleasant symptoms, many people turn to alcohol or other drugs. Although they may seem to help in the short term, they prevent the person from recovering effectively and lead to long-term problems. Drug and alcohol abuse impairs the person’s ability to function effectively and to relate to other people. It can cause great difficulties in areas such as relationships, work, finances, and violent behavior.
Impact on relationships and work
Traumatized people can become “consumed” by their feelings, which may lead others to believe that they are selfish, thinking only of themselves. Difficulty feeling and expressing emotions (e.g., love and enthusiasm), loss of interest in sex, and reduced participation in activities and hobbies that they used to enjoy before the trauma are common. Traumatized people are often tired and can become cranky and irritable. They may say hurtful things without really considering the implications of what they are saying. All of these symptoms may cause partners to feel rejected and unloved, and the absence of shared enjoyable activities makes it difficult to have a normal family life. It is very important to keep communicating about what is happening – try to be reasonably honest with each other about how you are feeling.
People with Posttraumatic stress disorder may have difficulty coping with pressure at work. Irritability, jumpiness, mood swings, poor concentration, and memory problems may lead to disputes in the workplace and frequent job changes. Some people with Posttraumatic stress disorder adopt a workaholic pattern, shutting themselves away in their work and putting in very long hours. This seems to be part of the avoidance component of Posttraumatic stress disorder -keeping very busy helps to prevent the memories and unpleasant thoughts coming back – but it does not help in the long term. Others find that their problems prohibit them from working effectively at all.
Why do traumatic stress reactions develop?
It is important to understand where the signs and symptoms of Posttraumatic stress disorder come from. One of the leading clinicians in the area, Mardi Horowitz, described trauma as an experience that is, by its very nature, overwhelming. It contains lots of new information that is hard to accept or understand. It does not fit with our view of the world or ourselves – the way we think things are or should be. Human beings have a natural tendency to try to make sense of things that happen around them. When people experience a trauma, the event keeps coming back into their mind in an attempt to make sense of what happened. This is the body’s natural way of trying to deal with, or come to terms with, difficult experiences and seems to work well for many stressful life events. However, due to the high level of distress associated with memories of more severe trauma, the thoughts and feelings tend to be pushed away to protect the person from this distress. The result is that, whilst the memory may go away for a while, the need for it to be dealt with has not been addressed and it keeps coming back. The movement backward and forward from intrusive thoughts and feelings about the trauma to avoidance and numbing can then continue almost indefinitely unless the cycle is addressed in some way.
Throughout this alternating between short bursts of painful memories and periods of avoidance and numbing, the sense of feeling keyed-up persists. The traumatized person has been through an event that threatened their life, or the life of someone else, so the mind and body stay on alert to make sure that no future potential dangers will be missed. It is safer to get it wrong by overestimating potential threat than to risk the possibility of missing any future threat. The persistent activation of this threat detection system, however, leaves the traumatized person feeling keyed-up or on edge much of the time. In addition, the threat detection system is so sensitive that it is constantly going off when there is no danger in such a way that interferes with the person’s capacity to live a normal and happy life.
Traumatic stress reactions, therefore, are sensible and adaptive both as part of survival during the trauma and in attempts to come to terms with the trauma afterward. Once we recognize where these symptoms come from, it is easier to understand the typical traumatic stress reactions. The difficult part is letting go of these reactions now that they have ceased to provide benefit and are interfering with the traumatized person’s quality of life.
The process of treatment and recovery
You have already started the first stage of recovery by acknowledging your reactions to the traumatic event. Presumably, you have also taken the next step of seeking appropriate treatment from a mental health professional. Getting help is often frightening – for many it is a leap into the unknown – but trying to recover from Posttraumatic stress disorder on your own is much more difficult. Treatment usually involves several stages; we will go through each of these in turn.
Posttraumatic stress disorder: stages of treatment
1. Crisis stabilization and engagement
2. Education about Posttraumatic stress disorder and related conditions
3. Strategies to manage the symptoms
4. Trauma focused therapy (confronting the painful memories and feared situations)
5. Cognitive restructuring (learning to think more realistically about what happened)
6. Relapse prevention and ongoing support
It is important to remember that treatment can be painful and hard work. Unfortunately, there is no easy way to get rid of the memories or make them less distressing. There is no magic wand that your therapist can wave or tablet that you can take to make it all go away. But the long-term gains can be enormous: effective treatment can dramatically assist your recovery, helping you to live a normal life once again.
Stabilization of a crisis and engagement in treatment
People who have been through a trauma often have other difficult situations to deal with in the aftermath. These may be legal issues, family disruptions, financial problems, or a multitude of other crises. It is important that any current life crises are resolved, or at least put “on hold”, before the real treatment of Posttraumatic stress disorder can begin. It is not possible to devote the necessary concentration, time, and energy to your recovery if you are constantly worried about your job, your relationship, your children, or other important life areas. That is not to say that you have to be able to solve all those problems before you can work on your Posttraumatic stress disorder, but you will need to be able to put them to one side for a while to concentrate on your treatment. Therapy is hard work – there is no easy way to do it – and you will need to devote all your personal resources to the task. If other life issues are worrying you, it is important that you discuss these with your therapist as they arise so that they do not interfere too much with your treatment.
The first part of treatment will often be devoted to developing a relationship with the therapist (or the treatment team if you are taking part in a group program). You will need to spend some time getting to know each other, and building trust, if you are to work on the difficult issues. We call this process “engagement”. For many people with Posttraumatic stress disorder, this is a very difficult process -experience of a traumatic event often makes it very hard to trust another person, particularly someone whom you have never met before. In many cases, you will need to tell your therapist about experiences and feelings that you have never discussed with anyone. We need to recognize that this is a difficult process that will take a lot of courage, but it will be worth it and it is the only way to recovery.
Education and information
Posttraumatic stress disorder can sometimes feel like an incomprehensible cloud that hangs over all areas of the person’s life. The first step in treatment is to understand exactly what trauma is, why we have the symptoms we do and, therefore, why it is treated the way it is. In this regard, you have come a long way already by reading the sections above. You need to know what the common signs and symptoms are, and you need to recognize that you are not alone – many people who have experienced traumatic events have responded in exactly the same way you have. You need to understand why the symptoms have appeared – the fact that they were very useful for survival while the traumatic events were happening but that they are no longer useful. They have become “maladaptive” and now serve only to create problems and distress for you. You need to understand what treatment will involve and how it may affect you. It is very important that you feel able to ask your therapist questions about the nature of your problems and the process of treatment. He or she will not have all the answers, but together you will reach a better understanding of what has happened and how you will recover.
Sometimes people who have been through a traumatic event have trouble understanding what happened and why it happened. You may find yourself constantly asking questions such as “How did this happen” or “Why me?”. This is partly because, when we are under threat, our attention is very focused on the source of the danger and we do not take in all the other things that are happening around us. We may end up with a distorted and confused memory of the experience, so that it becomes difficult to understand and make sense of the event. This confusion often stops us from being able to put the experience behind us. For this reason, your therapist may help you to find out more about what happened during the event. This process is important in being able to “put the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle together” and make sense of your experience. A good understanding of exactly what happened, and why it happened, often facilitates recovery.
Although we have put this under the heading “Education and information”, it is actually something that may happen at several stages throughout treatment and you need to make sure that you are ready before you pursue these options. When you are feeling reasonably confident, however, ask yourself what other information you need to help you to understand what happened and why it happened.
• Is there anyone else you can talk to who may be able to clarify things for you and help you to reach a better understanding of your experience (such as others who were there, police officers, or ambulance officers)?
• Is there anything you can read that will help to fill in the missing pieces (such as media reports, police statements, or reports from a trial or coroner’s inquest)? Sometimes, reading accounts written by other survivors of trauma can be useful in understanding your reactions.
• Occasionally there may even be video footage available from news reports or other sources: is there anything you can watch that will help you to fill in the gaps?
Unfortunately, of course, it is not always possible to fill in all the gaps in your understanding of the event. Sometimes we may never find out exactly what happened (or, more commonly, why it happened) and treatment needs to focus on helping us learn to live with that uncertainty.
Managing Anxiety and Distress
Exposure Therapy: Confronting Feared Situations
Exposure Therapy: Confronting the Memories
Cognitive restructuring
One effect that exposure may have is to bring to the surface unhelpful thoughts and beliefs that have arisen as a result of your experiences. In order to recover effectively from the trauma, it may be necessary to challenge those thoughts and beliefs (we call them “cognitions”), and try to replace them with something more rational and realistic. In Posttraumatic stress disorder, this process is best carried out in conjunction with the process of exposure, modifying the unhelpful cognitions as they arise.
Following a traumatic experience, people may be left with a range of negative thoughts about what happened, as well as about themselves and the world. For example, many people are left feeling vulnerable and insecure. They may think that the world has become a dangerous place and that other people are nasty, cruel, and out to take advantage. Similarly, many people experience feelings of guilt and shame following trauma. They may think that they are bad or evil for acting in the way they did during or after the incident; they may think that what happened was their fault; they may see themselves as weak or inadequate for not coping better. Sometimes, there may be elements of truth in these thoughts. Usually, however, they are completely untrue or, at least, grossly exaggerated. This kind of thinking leads to all sorts of unpleasant emotions such as depression and guilt, anxiety and fear, and anger. An important part of recovery involves identifying those maladaptive thoughts, challenging them, and replacing them with a more realistic view of yourself and the world.
Cognitive restructuring is a procedure whereby people’s thoughts, beliefs and interpretations about past experiences are identified and mistakes in thinking are highlighted. For example, it may be that the person is thinking in “black-and-white terms” – seeing things (or other people) as all good or all bad – when in reality the world holds much that is “gray”. It may not be perfect, but it’s not all bad either. The person may be overgeneralizing (e.g., “no-one can be trusted”) or overfocusing on the negatives and minimizing the positives about their situation. They may see one negative thing as confirmation that they are not coping, while ignoring other evidence that they are, in fact, coping quite well. A common problem in Posttraumatic stress disorder is that people base their interpretations about what happened, themselves, or the world upon only a fragment of the memory (the part that repeatedly comes back) rather than on information that places that aspect in a broader context. Once these faulty thought patterns are discovered, it is the goal of cognitive therapy to replace them with more adaptive, realistic and flexible beliefs. This, of course, includes re-evaluating our experiences and, in particular, the traumatic event. It is a difficult process that can take a lot of hard work, but it can be very effective in minimizing and managing unpleasant emotions.
The process of cognitive restructuring
As with several other components of treatment, the other Patient Treatment Manuals in this book contain some excellent descriptions of the process of cognitive restructuring. If you are working with a therapist, you may wish to ask him or her to copy some of the relevant sections for you. In this section, we will talk briefly about how to go about identifying and challenging your unhelpful thoughts with specific reference to trauma.
The task this time is to write at least one page on what your experience of the event means to you. In particular, how has it changed your beliefs, views, and ideas about yourself, other people, and the world? What views or beliefs have been strengthened? Which ones have changed? Try to write something under each of the following headings:
• My beliefs about myself have changed since the trauma in the following ways.
• My beliefs about other people have changed since the trauma in the following ways.
• My beliefs about the world have changed since the trauma in the following ways. In answering those questions, you may want to think about issues such as how you feel about yourself (self-esteem), your personal safety, trusting others, thoughts about control and power, intimacy with others, what kind of society we live in, etc. Any ways in which you think the event has changed your ideas, thoughts and beliefs.
The next stage is to pick one of the key themes that is leading you to feel an unpleasant emotion. Which one makes you feel angry? Or frightened? Or guilty? Or sad? Try to express it as a single statement of opinion, such as “all men are bad” or “it was all my fault”. In particular, look for statements beginning with “I”, such as “I’m weak and hopeless” or “I’m not safe anywhere”. Write this thought or belief at the top of a clean sheet in your exercise book. Then go through and try to answer the following questions. Some of them may not apply to every thought, but most will – they will help you to re-evaluate whether your thoughts and beliefs are really true.
What is the evidence? Here we want you to become a scientist and really think about the objective evidence for and against the thought. Is it really true? Are you 100% sure? Do the facts of the situation back up what you think or contradict it? Write out all the evidence you can think of for and against the thought. In most cases, you will find that it is not completely true. (Indeed, it may turn out to be completely false.) What alternative views are there? How do other people think about this? Would other people agree with you? Is there another way of looking at it? Are there other explanations? Try to generate as many alternative explanations as you can and review the evidence for and against them. When you look at it objectively, which explanation is most likely to be correct? Am I thinking in all-or-nothing, black-and-white terms? Am I using terms like all, always, never? Nothing is all bad or all good, no person is either perfect or worthless. Try to look for a more balanced view, with a more realistic assessment of the situation. Am I overestimating my responsibility? Things happen for all sorts of complex reasons, many of which we may never understand. Be very careful not to take too much responsibility for things over which you do not have control. Are my judgments based on how I feel, rather than what is actually happening? If you feel guilty, you are likely to assume things must have been your fault. If you feel frightened, you may assume that you are not safe. If you feel depressed, you may assume that things will never get better. Feelings are not a good basis on which to make rational judgments. Put the feelings to one side for a moment and look for objective evidence. Am I over-focusing on one aspect and forgetting other aspects? Am I looking only at the negative side and ignoring the neutral or positive things? If we focus only on small parts of the whole picture, we will end up with a very distorted view of reality. How likely is it? Am I confusing a low probability with a high probability? How likely is it that what you fear will actually happen? Understandably, many trauma survivors fear a recurrence of the event but, realistically, how likely is it?
Am I underestimating what I can do about it? Am I putting myself in the role of helpless victim? What can I do to make things better or safer for myself? Taking some control – doing something about it – is an important part of recovery. What will happen if I continue to think like this? Is this kind of thinking helping me to recover? Will it help me to live a happy and relaxed life? Are there any benefits to thinking this way? If not, it is worth working hard to try to let go of the irrational negative thoughts.
When you have written an answer to all (or most) of the above questions, go back and reconsider the original thought. Do you still believe it? Is it still a rational statement of reality? If yes, try to go through the above process again – talking to others who can be more objective may help. Do not expect all the negative thoughts to disappear at once – it is hard work and you will need to go through the process many times to shift those ideas. If the thought does not seem entirely rational now, can you come up with a more realistic version of the original thought? Remember that we are not talking here about positive thinking – that is just as unrealistic and very fragile. We do not want to pretend that everything is rosy when it is not. We do not want to minimize what you went through. Equally, we do not want to overemphasize the negatives. Recovery is difficult, but you can make progress; life will not always be safe, but do not exaggerate the dangers. For example, if the original thought was “all men are bad”, a more rational alternative may be “some men are bad, but by no means all – most men are actually caring, safe, friendly people”. If the original thought was “I’m not safe anywhere” the rational alternative may be “I am safe in most places most of the time – I will be careful not to put myself in dangerous situations, but I do not need to worry constantly about getting hurt again”.
Relapse prevention
The final stage of treatment will look at relapse prevention. Recovery is not just about getting better; it is about staying better. Some simple strategies will help you to get through difficult times in the future. There are a few simple points to remember in relapse prevention:
• Lapses are to be expected from time to time: When you are reminded of your traumatic experience (such as hearing of a similar event, or experiencing something else frightening) it is natural for you to become a little distressed. This is part of a normal human reaction and, as long as it is not too severe or lasts too long, you should not consider it to be a problem. You can cope with being upset for a while. It becomes a problem if you are not expecting it and you tell yourself that you have “fallen in a heap” or that you are “back to square one”. Simply use it as a reminder to practice your coping strategies a bit more for a few days.
• Be aware of the early warning signs: Keep an eye on yourself and try to notice when you are not coping so well. The earlier that you can recognize that things are not right, the easier it will be to do something about it. The longer you leave it, the worse it will get, and the more difficult it will become to pull yourself out again. It will be easier to recognize the early warning signs if you are aware of the kinds of things that may precipitate a lapse.
• Identify high risk situations: Spend some time thinking about what kinds of things may cause you to become upset – the more prepared you are, the better you will cope. The kinds of things that upset most trauma survivors are powerful reminders or news of similar incidents, an experience similar to the original trauma, and other life stresses such as financial or family problems. What kinds of things may cause you to become upset and think about the trauma again?
• Generate a plan to cope: Write down on a card what you will do if and when you are upset again about the trauma. The kinds of things to include are:
• Who will you call? Write down the names and phone numbers.
• Physical coping strategies: Which arousal management strategies worked best for you? Write down one or two (such as breathing control, go for a walk, listen to the relaxation tape) as a reminder to do them.
• Cognitive coping strategies: Write out a coping self-statement that you can use such as “I expect to feel upset when I’m reminded of what happened, but that’s okay -1 may not like it but I can cope with it. I don’t have to make it worse by exaggerating it. Now, what can I do to make myself feel better?” You may wish also to jot down any other strategies that worked well for you such as your favorite distraction technique or thought stopping.
• Behavioral coping strategies: Write down one or two things you can do to get you back on track – visit a friend, go to a movie, get involved in an engrossing hobby or task.
• Be positive: Remind yourself that you expected this from time to time and that you will get over it quickly. Try to view it as an opportunity to practice your skills and become a stronger person.
• Get professional help if necessary: No matter how well you have recovered from the original trauma, sometimes a relapse may be just too much for you to cope with alone. Don’t hesitate to get some professional help if necessary. It does not mean that you are weak or that you are back to square one, simply that you need some extra support to get over a difficult time. It may require only one or two sessions.
